When I became pregnant I began to prepare for the possibility that my firstborn would become jealous of the new baby. It’s only natural, it happens.
I remember being jealous of my little sister when she came home from the hospital. I was so excited to have a sister to play with, but I soon realized that she was too small to play, she cried a lot, and everyone paid a lot of attention to her and I felt left out. I cut all the hair off of my Fraggle doll, Wembley.
I have had conversations with her about how when Mommy and Daddy bring the baby home the baby will require lots of our attention, but we will still love Abby just the same, always have time for her, and will still give her all the attention she needs. I don’t think she really understands yet, but that’s OK.
What I didn’t prepare for was the possibility that Abby would become jealous of my husband.
In the past couple weeks she has gotten upset when Mommy and Daddy hug or kiss. If we hold hands in front of her she will try to pull them apart. When we sit next to each other or try to snuggle together on the couch she will act angry and try to hit my husband or push him away.
We have both tried to explain to Abby that hugging, kissing, and holding hands is how Mommy and Daddy show our love and affection for each other, just as we hug, kiss, and hold her. I’m not sure how to get through to her that Mommy isn’t just hers. Nothing we say seems to make a difference.
I know and try to reassure my husband that this is just a phase she is going through and that will not last too long, but it is frustrating, especially for my husband.
Has this ever happened to you? How did you handle the situation?